When I reflect on the kinds of problems people bring to coaching conversations, they are often centred around the actions of another person. It is not uncommon to centre our challenges and issues around the actions of others. For example, it takes high levels of self-awareness for a person to pause and reflect on their contribution to the circumstances.

Interestingly, when we hear someone expressing frustration or difficulty with another person, we tend to offer advice.

It turns out—based on scientific research—that we literally only hear what we listen for. We pay special attention to what we expect to see, hear, feel, or taste.

What I love about a coaching approach to conversations is that they are centred on the other person and inspire the expansion of thoughts, perceptions and ideas.

Coaching catalyses commitment because the coachee creates the change….. For the same reason you can't tickle yourself, your brain resists self-imposed testing of thoughts and reactions.

An ongoing conversation is needed to energise action and create sustainable change. While your coaching conversations will create amazing action plans, we are still working on one step of many when working towards a goal.